When two people begin to desire, love and even get intimate, they become vulnerable and open themselves up to hurt trusting that it won’t happen. My culture portrays infidelity as one of the worst things that could happen to two people in a romantic relationship. It is painful and immoral as it involves breaking one’s word because a lot of lying is involved. If there is sex involved, this exposes the other partner to serious STDs. It’s unfair to expose someone to something they should not have to go through physically, knowing that it will kill them.
I am adamant about not tolerating cheating because I believe it results from selfishness. It could be avoided by the cheating partner communicating exactly what they do or what they do not want. Therefore, I have learned to constantly find ways to have even the toughest conversations with any woman I’m with. I believe and remain intentional on creating an atmosphere that allows the both of us to voice our concerns and desires and accomodate each other without judgment.
I understand that cheating does not always mean that the other person no longer has feelings for me. However, I still would not tolerate such a betrayal whether I played a role in it or not. I always end relationships immediately after I find out my partner has committed adultery. Based on my cultural values, if they cared for me as much, they would never cheat. Some conversations are hard to have, but I would rather they told me in my face instead of doing something behind my back giving me the hint that they do not want to be with me anymore. Infidelity completely changes how I look at an individual, whether or not they are my partner. A cheater acknowledges that their actions will hurt their partner but make a cautious decision to proceed. It is this disrespect and disregard for their partner’s feelings that makes infidelity unacceptable to me.